To give or to want to give (more thoughts)

In an earlier post, I wrote: “I deeply feel giving has to fit in one’s circumstances just right. It has to flow effortlessly. It should not be agonizing, afflicting, harrowing, tormenting; if it is, then one becomes a liability to oneself and others. The whole thing becomes a hindrance, putting the individual at a disadvantage, or compromising what he/she is responsible for.” The way it works for me is that I have to feel (not “be” because it’s all subjective and relative) that my husband, children and I are secure – mainly financially, but maybe also emotionally? – to give with all my heart. This is the way it works for me at this point in my life.